Post by floppy on Aug 6, 2004 4:50:37 GMT -8
J said:
I think she did post AFTER gerbilcrazy's post.But still. It wasn't just gerbilcrazy that offended her. GerbilCrazy did not mention shelters, she was also offended by that.
There is a difference between people who have no clue and are sincerely looking for advice and are willing to learn and take it, then people who have no patience and don't even bother.
People that mentioned it needing a buddy, she completely ignored the advice. The only thing she cared about was (queen i think?) giving her suggestions on just letting her sniff her hand to tame it. In my opinion, taming that gerbil would be impossible after all that poor thing has been through.
Personally, I don't regret my rudeness. She was beyond help.
I agree, I don't regret anything I said to her either. I would have said the same to her face. She really didn't want to take any kind of advice whatsoever. I don't know why she bothered asking for it. It didn't matter to her what any of us said, it seemed that it all annoyed her. She's like one of those people who just has to disagree with anyone no matter what they say!
I think she had problems, because her arguements didn't make sense. She said "Excuse me, but I'm NOT abusing my gerbil just not feeling well lately and can't deal with people who tell me I'm not doing enough or making bad choices. Well HELLO, my choices are my own not anyones here!"
What's that got to do with her not feeling well?? That's no reason to lash out at people who are trying to help you.
"I'm not a member here to have people tell me how to live. "
I don't remember anyone telling her how to live do you?
I totally agree that she was/is beyond help. I don't think it would have made a difference to her if we were all ultra nice.
. Both of you may not regret what you have said, but I still think that this forum and its members lose integrity when we start throwing insults like we are children. We don't *have* to be rude to each other and we don't *have* to let other people's posts bother us. I think we can respond with some dignity rather than with this back and forth razzing. To me this seems like Grade 2 behaviour: "Mom, Sheila spit on me, so I spat on her back." Is it too much to ask for all forum members to talk to each other in a respectful manner? That is all I'm asking for, because I *know* this situation will come up again.